Welcome to Episode 7 of the Connection from Here podcast! In this heartfelt and deeply insightful conversation, host Ashley Perry and guest co-host Rhiana Wiggins are joined by the inspiring storyteller and psychotherapist Mary Hoefler. Together, they explore the transformative power of storytelling, the journey to authentic belonging, and how communities—traditional or chosen—impact who we become. Mary opens up about her immigrant upbringing, the difference between fitting in and true belonging, and how honoring our own stories (even the messy parts!) paves the way to deeper human connection. If you’ve ever felt invisible or out of place—even in a crowd—this episode will remind you that your uniqueness deserves to be seen. Key Takeaways: 🎤 The power of storytelling as a tool for personal healing and building community 🎤 Why authenticity and vulnerability are essential for real connection 🎤 The difference between fitting in and truly belonging, especially in families or cultural groups 🎤 How childhood experiences shape our sense of self-worth and connection 🎤 The importance of chosen family when traditional support systems aren’t enough 🎤 Finding community through creativity and the arts, even later in life 🎤 Tips for giving yourself and others grace as we navigate our own messy, human journeys If you’re searching for meaning, longing for community, or hoping to give yourself a little more grace, this episode is for you. ABOUT MARY HOEFLER: After finding herself on stage during an expanded state of consciousness, Mary Hoefler decided that it was about time to get writing and start talking. She found herself on The Moth stage for the first time in July of 2023 and never looked back. A 2025 Moth Grand Slam winner and a six-time StorySlam winner, Mary has also been showing up at venues all over Chicago to tell her truth. In her stories, she shares with bravery and vulnerability what it is like to feel invisible at her age and her lifelong journey of wanting to be seen and picked. Although storytelling is clearly in her DNA, it doesn’t pay the bills, so Mary spends her days as a psychotherapist, encouraging clients to find their voice, get loud, and share their own stories without any edits…because why edit who we are?!! Connect with Mary Psychology Today | Mary Hoefler: https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/367036 The Moth Stories: https://drive.google.com/open?id=1RKJl_72bxPmcSKAhNYGe_7krfbfOSYOR https://drive.google.com/file/d/1d61g9kWucRUUaVtaGM3MsPYVUlXvZrBL/view https://drive.google.com/file/d/1QQf70imBXDW6HXYRfDuPmgwS87OITjyU/view Stay Connected: Website: https://www.gethopebase.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/get_hopebase/ Join the HopeBase Community: https://hopebasecommunity.mn.co/plans/1524592?bundle_token=33729f35dfaaa9fea5bc9fc3fdde4a68&utm_source=manual CHAPTER MARKERS: 00:00 Introduction of Mary Hoefler 04:49 Seeking Purpose Beyond Service 11:08 Struggling with Cultural Identity 18:27 Discovering Community Through Storytelling 28:25 Finding Belonging Amidst the Messiness 32:13 Childhood Intuition and Adult Agency 37:40 Building Connection Through Empathy

In this powerful episode of "Connection from Here," climate activist and author Andrew Boyd joins host Ashley Perry and guest co-host Rhianna Wiggins for a deeply moving conversation about building connection and community in an ever-changing world. Andrew shares wisdom drawn from his nomadic childhood, his work as the "Chief Existential Officer" of the Climate Clock, and his innovative climate grief ritual, the Climate Ribbon. Whether you’re longing for deeper relationships, searching for meaning beyond organized religion, or seeking ways to take action on climate and justice, this episode offers practical insights and heartfelt stories to inspire you. Key Takeaways: *Inventing Community Amidst Change: Andrew’s frequent moves as a child taught him that connection often needs to be built intentionally, not just inherited. *Rituals that Build Belonging: Learn how Andrew sustains “chosen family” through unique rituals—from monthly happy hours to the wonderfully eccentric “Latke, Vodka, Babka, Kafka” holiday gathering. *Transforming Grief into Action: Discover the Climate Ribbon project—a global, participatory ritual that helps people move through climate grief toward hope and activism. *The Power of Toolkits: Andrew explains why sharing toolkits and resources is essential for empowering others and growing movements for change. *Facing Burnout with Community: The conversation addresses how being in community helps us hold both hope and grief, and allows for rest and resilience. *A Simple Connection Challenge: Andrew’s practical advice for reconnecting with loved ones, even after a long lapse, is a step anyone can take today. Whether you’re interested in community organizing, climate action, or finding your sense of belonging, you’ll walk away from this episode with concrete tools and a renewed sense of hope. Connect with Andrew: AndrewBoyd.com: https://andrewboyd.com/ Climate Clock: https://climateclock.world/ The Climate Ribbon: https://www.theclimateribbon.org/ The Other 98%: https://www.facebook.com/TheOther98/ Trillionaires for Trump: https://www.trillionairesfortrump.org/ I Want a Better Catastrophe: https://bettercatastrophe.com/ Beautiful Trouble: https://beautifultrouble.org/store/p/book-beautiful-trouble Daily Afflictions: https://www.dailyafflictions.com/ Life’s Little Deconstruction Book: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/513756.Life_s_Little_Deconstruction_Book (Substack) The Tragic Optimist: https://thetragicoptimist.substack.com/ (Substack) We shall not be overwhelmed: https://thetragicoptimist.substack.com/p/we-shall-not-be-overwhelmed (Substack) Latke Vodka Babka Kafka Tchotchke: https://thetragicoptimist.substack.com/p/latke-vodka-babka-kafka-tchotchke Stay Connected: Website: https://www.gethopebase.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/get_hopebase/ CHAPTER MARKERS: 00:00 Finding Belonging Through Chosen Family, Rituals, and Activism with Andrew Boyd 01:02 Introducing Andrew Boyd: Activist, Author, and Humorist 05:05 Inventing the Community You Wish to Be Part Of 10:59 Unpacking the Idea of "Chosen Family" 16:26 Art and Ritual in Community 24:22 Eco Chaplaincy and Empathy Toolkit 25:25 Empowering Others with Toolkits 30:46 Guidebook for Activist Action 35:24 Let Go and Reach Out to Friends

In this insightful episode of Connection from Here, Michele Perry and Ashley Perry explore the power of improv classes in teaching us key lessons about community and connection in our rapidly changing world. Dive into their engaging conversation as they uncover how the principles of improv can be applied to foster stronger bonds and create meaningful interactions in everyday life. Key Takeaways: 🎭 Yes, And...: Discover how embracing this simple phrase can open doors to creative possibilities and deeper understanding in interpersonal relationships. 🎭 Building Trust and Empathy: Learn how supporting your scene partners encourages collaboration, strengthens community bonds, and boosts confidence. 🎭 The Value of Vulnerability and Play: Understand how being playful and vulnerable can create a welcoming and affirming environment for connection. 🎭 Active Listening: Enhance your communication skills by focusing on presence and attentiveness during interactions. 🎭 Celebrating Individual Contributions: Recognize the unique gifts each person brings to the table, enriching both improv scenes and personal relations. Join Michele and Ashley as they share personal insights and practical applications from the world of improv that can transform how we connect with those around us. Remember, being present and open to new experiences can lead to unexpected and enriching connections. Let's embark on this journey of finding community together! Stay Connected: Website: https://www.gethopebase.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/get_hopebase/ CHAPTER MARKERS: 00:00 What the Fundamentals of Improv Can Teach Us About Community Building 05:00 "Interactive Party Planning Exercise" 08:23 Improv's Lesson: Focus Outward 10:54 Supporting Your Fellow Scene Partner 16:18 Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability 19:16 Active Listening Through Improv Games 22:23 Life Lessons We Can Glean from Improv 24:56 The Gift of Human Connection 27:08 Being Present with Others

In this episode of Connection from Here, we dive deep into the personal journey of Rhiana Wiggins, a former hospice nurse and current chaplain, as she shares her lifelong quest for community and belonging. This episode explores the challenges many face in our rapidly changing world when seeking genuine connections and the impact of loneliness on our lives. Rhiana's story is one of resilience and discovery. We touch on her experiences with religious and spiritual communities, her search for authenticity, and the transformative realization of interconnectedness through Buddhism. Whether you're struggling with feelings of isolation or simply exploring new pathways to genuine connection, join us as we uncover insights that may resonate with your own journey. Key Takeaways: ❇️ Rhiana Wiggins shares her personal story of seeking community through religion and the importance of authenticity. ❇️ Discussion on the modern challenges of forming and maintaining meaningful connections. ❇️ Insights into how loneliness can impact both mental and physical health. ❇️ Exploration of Rhiana's spiritual journey, with a focus on her experiences in Buddhist practice. ❇️ Practical techniques for grounding and fostering connection, such as the "5, 4, 3, 2, 1" sensory exercise. Tune in to explore the importance of finding your own place of belonging and connection in a world that often feels disconnected. Don't forget to leave a comment with your thoughts or experiences on this topic! Follow Rhiana's death and doula work on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ofdeathanddying/ Stay Connected: Website: https://www.gethopebase.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/get_hopebase/ CHAPTER MARKERS: 00:00 Finding Your Place: The Difference Authentic Community Can Make with Rhiana Wiggins 04:50 Rhiana’s Experience of Childhood Loneliness and Isolation 13:05 Finding Authentic Community and Personal Identity 25:11 Finding Home in the Mountains 27:38 Eroding Family Support Systems 29:17 Loneliness and Zen Meditation Effects 33:51 Five Senses Mindfulness Technique

In this episode of Connection from Here, hosts Ashley and Michele Perry delve into the evolving landscape of spirituality and the shifting trends away from organized religion. Join us as we discuss the concept of being "spiritual but not religious" and explore the significant role that non-religious, clinically trained chaplains play in providing care and connection for those on this journey. Discover how chaplains are uniquely equipped to support individuals seeking meaning and purpose beyond traditional religious structures. Key Takeaways: Understanding the demographic shift towards a "spiritual but not religious" identity and its implications for modern society. The importance of finding connection and purpose outside of organized religious frameworks. How chaplains offer a compassionate, non-judgmental space for individuals to explore their spiritual journeys. The distinct differences between chaplains and pastors, and how chaplains provide care without imposing religious beliefs. Personal stories highlighting the impact and potential of chaplain care in various stages of life. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share your thoughts in the comments below. We'd love to hear your perspective on this important conversation! Stay Connected: Website: https://www.gethopebase.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/get_hopebase/ CHAPTER MARKERS: 00:00 The Role of Non-Religious Chaplains in Today’s World 04:24 Reevaluating exclusionary belief systems. 09:15 A chaplain’s role in understanding diverse beliefs. 10:59 How chaplains meet you where you are and where you find meaning. 15:08 A personal story of connecting with someone as a hospice chaplain. 19:09 The need to increase access to this chaplain care model. 23:24 How chaplains guide an individual’s personal spiritual journey. 24:46 The gifts that chaplains provide. 27:33 Naming your emotions to reduce their power.

Join Michele Perry and Ashley Perry as they explore the evolving concept of community in modern society. In this enlightening episode of "Connection from Here," we delve into the significance of finding genuine connection and purpose beyond solitary pursuits of happiness. Discover key insights about the power of relationships, the meaning of community, and how to truly belong in a world that's constantly changing. Key Takeaways: *The historical meaning of community and its transformation in modern times. *The importance of genuine connections beyond superficial "communities." *Insights from former Surgeon General Vivek Murthy on the loneliness epidemic and the role of purpose in true community. *The distinction between friendship and community and the unique roles each plays in our lives. *The importance of being your true self in a community that values inclusion and purpose. *How the care model of non-religious chaplains inspires genuine community building. *Practical tips for reflecting and validating in conversations to foster deeper connections. Links Referenced: New York Times- Ruth Whippman 2017 "Happiness is Other People" https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/27/opinion/sunday/happiness-is-other-people.html Former surgeon general Dr. Vivek Murthy's key elements of community: https://www.acofp.org/news-and-publications/blogs/acofp-voice/2025/02/21/parting-prescription-from-us-surgeon-general-dr.-vivek-murthy New York Times- Carina Chocano 2018 "What Good is Community When Someone Else Makes All the Rules?" https://www.nytimes.com/2018/04/17/magazine/what-good-is-community-when-someone-else-makes-all-the-rules.html Podcast: The Double Shift https://www.everand.com/podcast/827356851/The-Crucial-Differences-Between-Community-and-Friendship-Explained-Audio Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a crisis counselor https://www.crisistextline.org/ Stay Connected: Website: https://www.gethopebase.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/get_hopebase/ CHAPTER MARKERS: CHAPTER MARKERS: 00:00 The Essential Elements Of True Community 06:35 Community Over Solitude 07:46 Isolation Through Individualism 12:21 Caring Community Connections 15:36 Modern Community and Connection Challenges 17:46 Modern Isolation in Mobile Society 23:26 Chaplains: Model of Compassionate Community 27:03 Reflecting and Validating Feelings 28:16 Grateful Acknowledgment of Connection

In this inaugural episode of Connection From Here, hosts Ashley Perry and Michele Perry delve into the profound impact of the loneliness epidemic on both physical and mental health. Key Takeaways: *Discover startling statistics, such as the 50% of Americans who report daily loneliness, and the potential health risks linked to isolation. *Explore the role of technology and the decline of in-person interactions in this digital age. *Uncover how shifts away from traditional religious communities have left many searching for new forms of connection. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the human need for community and belonging, and a call to build new spaces for meaning and togetherness. Tune in to learn how we can foster a sense of belonging in our modern world. Don't miss the upcoming episodes, where we'll continue to unravel the complexities of our quest for connection. Subscribe now for more engaging discussions on building caring communities and finding purpose beyond religion. Links Referenced: [NPR] America has a loneliness epidemic. Here are 6 steps to address it: https://www.npr.org/2023/05/02/1173418268/loneliness-connection-mental-health-dementia-surgeon-general [Pew Research] Spirituality Among Americans: https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2023/12/07/spirituality-among-americans/ [The Atlantic] The True Cost of the Churchgoing Bust: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2024/04/america-religion-decline-non-affiliated/677951/ Stay Connected: Website: https://www.gethopebase.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/get_hopebase/ CHAPTER MARKERS: 00:00 Creating Community After Leaving Religion: New Paths to Connection 01:02 The Impact of The Loneliness Epidemic 05:25 Loneliness from Declining Involvement in Religious Organizations 08:45 Family Tension Caused by Religious Departure 10:28 Growing Up in Progressive Christianity 13:57 Faith in Action: Advocating (or Failing To Advocate) For Justice 16:53 Our Story of Stepping Away from Religion 21:38 The Value of Community in Religion 25:00 Rebuilding Community in Religion 27:03 Spirituality Beyond Religion 30:27 Showing Empathy and Leaving Space to Share Feelings